Thursday, February 27, 2014
#SelectingARoommate is a very important first step in an #apartment search. You want to make sure you choose someone compatible and not every friend will be a good choice for sharing your home. George Fox University has some great suggestions on finding a roommate. They specifically address dorm life, but their suggestions and questions are definitely applicable to those sharing an apartment as well.
Develop a strategy for picking a roommate. Your first step is to think about the people around you and how they live their lives. How do you live yours? Think about things like how clean you keep your environment and how they keep theirs.
What is most important to you and who do you see around you who shares these same goals? Rank your priorities because it is unlikely you will find someone who fits every one of your preferences.
Start talking to other people about what they want in a roomie and then start narrowing down your list of choices to just a few people you think will be good candidates. Have a frank discussion with them about how they want to live now so you can avoid conflict down the road. George Fox has several thought-provoking questions to ask potential roomies, so be sure to check those out.
Finally, ask someone to live with you. Be prepared for them to say no and keep asking other people. It's not a rejection, but rather just narrowing down to who is the perfect roommate for you.
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
Sharing your #apartment with a member of the opposite sex is increasingly becoming more normal. However, there are certain considerations to be made before you sign the lease with a #CoEdRoommate. Global Post.com shares some guidelines.
Psychologists have discovered a phenomenon where when friends who are of different genders live together, they often develop an attraction to one another. While this doesn't mean it's a foregone conclusion that you and your roomie/friend will become romantically involved, or that you even want to, it's important to be aware of this and avoid intimate touches or flirting that may end in romantic entanglements. A good rule of thumb is that if you wouldn't exhibit the behavior in public or in front of a romantic partner, it could be a gateway behavior.
If one or both roommates are in a relationship, it may make the romantic partner(s) jealous. Before establishing an apartment together, or at the start of any new serious relationship with a love interest, have a meeting with everyone involved to reassure significant others that there is no need to be envious. Another important rule to establish with your roomie is how often dates can come home.
Set rules for what is acceptable as far as attire around the house. Sure, you might think it's fine to walk around in your skivvies, but it can make your opposite gender roommate uncomfortable. Set what is acceptable at the outset to avoid embarrassment later.
Avoid stereotypes like the woman is in charge of cleaning and the man is in charge of fixing broken stuff. Divide the household chores equally just as you would with any roommate. Also, don't become emotionally dependent on your roomie. It's easy to fall into the trap of using them as a surrogate romantic partner.
Thursday, February 20, 2014
If you set a few ground rules about sharing a refrigerator with roommates, your #apartment will be a much more harmonious place. Check out Apartment Therapy's tips on #SharingAFridge.
Make a decision as a group whether you are going to share food, condiments and beverages and make sure everyone is clear on the rules that are agreed upon. When making the decision to split or not to split, discuss your at-home eating habits. If one person eats all their meals at home while another likes to eat out all the time, splitting 50/50 will not be fair.
If you make the decision to not share, give your roommates a heads up if there is anything of yours you are okay with sharing. Condiments are a great thing to share without too much trouble. However, whoever is the one to use the end of the shared condiment should replace it.
Give everyone equivalent space in the refrigerator. It could be a shelf for each roommate or just a rough estimate of how much space you can use. Even if you keep the limits loose, be courteous and don't buy in bulk at the store.
All housemates should make sure that all food is covered to prevent odors and mold. Make sure to wrap foods that give off a strong smell extra well.
Label all food so it's clear which roommate leftovers belong to, both so no one eats them and so you can hound the appropriate person if something starts to go bad.
Set up a schedule for how often the fridge is cleaned, who does it, and what exactly constitutes "clean". However, if you're the one whose food spills or leaks, clean it up whether it's your turn or not. In addition, get rid of rotten produce weekly.
Follow these rules and you can share a fridge in peace!
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
Curious about what result living with a roommate can have on you? The New York Times reports on the body of research on how your #apartment mate can affect you, from research done on first year college roommates.
With female roomies, if one roommate is heavier than the other, the thinner roommate tends to gain less weight on average than those with a thinner roommate. The reason is that four out of five overweight roommates are on a diet and these habits rub off on the thinner roomie.
In male roommate pairs, if one roommate is depressed, the other roomie may become more unhappy themselves.
This tends to happen when the depressed student doesn't express his feelings. It doesn't mean that the non-depressed roommate will develop depression, however. There is no such transference between roommates if they are female.
If one roommate brings a video game console to college, it will lower the other roommates grades because they will study an average of half an hour less than those without a video game console in their room. These leads to grade averages that average 0.2 lower than students without gaming consoles.
If a non-drinker rooms with a drinker, they are more likely to become a drinker as well, leading to lowered grades. On the positive side, if roommates are of different races, this leads to increased tolerance for people of other races and diversity in their friend pool.
Thursday, February 13, 2014
Although once thought taboo, living with a roommate of the opposite gender is something most people wouldn't bat an eye at these days. However, there are certain ground rules to set and pitfalls to avoid so your #apartment doesn't turn into a war zone. Global Post.com shares what you need to think about and discuss with your potential opposite sex roommate to make sure life is peaceful in your new home.
There is a phenomenon psychologists have observed where when friends of opposite genders are in close proximity with one another, they often become attracted to one another. This doesn't mean you are going to become romantically involved or that you even want to. Watch out for this "revelation of possibility" and be conscious of intimate touches or flirting that could end in an unwanted romantic relationship. A good guideline is if the behavior wouldn't feel acceptable in public or in front of a romantic partner, it's dangerous.
If either or both roommate is in a relationship, the significant other(s) may not be enthusiastic about their loved ones living together. Call a meeting with all parties to reassure your girlfriend/boyfriend that there isn't a danger of the two of you becoming romantically involved. Also discuss how often each of you can bring home dates.
Set rules for modesty. You may think it's perfectly fine to traipse around in next-to-nothing, but it can make your roommate feel uncomfortable. Go ahead and set expectations of what is appropriate so no one is offended later.
Don't fall into stereotypes like the woman cleans and the man fixes stuff. Share household chores equally just as you would with another roommate of the same gender. Also, don't become emotionally dependent on your roommate, letting them stand in for a love interest. Open communication about all parts of the relationship are key to avoid hurt feelings.
Posted by Lisa Pegues at 11:00 AM
Labels: co-ed roommates, renting an apartment with a roommate of the opposite gender, tips for living with a member of the opposite sex
Wednesday, February 12, 2014
#RepurposingObjects to decorate your #apartment is a great way to save money, be kind to the environment, and inject uniqueness into your decor. Check out our #pinterest board for lots of ideas for using what you already have to jazz up your space!
Thursday, February 6, 2014
#KidsRooms don't need to be boring just because you live in an #apartment. Check out our #pinterest board full of creative ideas for making kids rooms fun, even in a rental!
Wednesday, February 5, 2014
Is your #apartment short on #ClosetSpace? Or maybe you just don't have closets easily accessible. Either way, check out our #pinterest board full of inspiration for creating closets wherever you need them!